As an outside observer, it can be difficult to understand why people stay in abusive relationships.
Among the reasons victims stay are:
Love
The victim may have truly deep feelings for the abusive partner, regardless of the abuse, and is unwilling to leave.
Promises, promises
Abusers may promise that the behavior will never happen again.
It's what they know
The lines between love and being controlled may become blurred if they've grown up in this environment. They may not recognize that while abuse may be a normal part of his/her relationship, it is not normal for a GOOD relationship.
Guilt
Abuse often includes a pattern of blaming the victim and making the him/her feel as though it is his/her fault.
"No one would believe me"
The victim may feel as though he/she lacks support if they tell the truth. He/she may also fear being alone and losing family and friends.
"I can change him/her"
The victim may believe the abuser can change over time.
Low self-esteem
After being verbally/emotionally abused, a victim may feel that he/she can do no better than the current relationship, or that no one else will want them.
