Voice of Experience

Well I’m not a young teen who is suffering from dating abuse, but I was.
Now I’m a wife and a mum to two young children and I suppose that I’m suffering from domestic abuse. As you can see it’s taken me some time to realise that he isnt going to change, seven years in fact.

From the outside we look like a normal happily married couple, non of my friends or family know. I have lied through the back of my teeth to make sure that no one would guess what was happening to me. You are probably wondering why I have stayed, well I’m ashamed for a start and for another thing I didn’t want my parents to worry about me.

It’s like I’m leading two seperate lives, my friends think I’m the one who has everything, a lovely home, husband and children. Everyone thinks that he’s a top bloke, and around everyone else he is, he’s funny, caring and would do anything for anybody.

If they only knew what I’ve had to put up with over the years. It started when I told him that I was pregnant, we had only been together about six months he said some terrible things to me accusing me of trapping him, saying that I’d been with other boys calling me a slut, slag and worse.

We broke up for about a week and then he turned up at college with a big bunch of flowers and asked me to marry him. All my friends thought that it was so romantic and we married three months later.

When I was seven months pregnant he attacked me, and I’ll never forget the shock that I felt when my husband slapped me across the face and pushed me onto the floor, somehow I ended up believing it was my fault because of my hormones, and that I had made him angry.

From then on it has happened on and off over the years, people must think I’m very clumsy, I’ve fallen down stairs, tripped over the kids toys, walked into cupboards and even dropped a boiling pan of water over myself!

I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’ve got to get out before he kills me. My kids hear and see far too much even though I try to protect them. Next week I’m going to my brothers house and I’m going to ask him for help. For the sake of my children and myself I’ve got to get out.

Please, please, please if you are reading this, and have any doubts at all about your boyfriend don’t think that they will change. They won’t.